Lets talk about Birth Plan. There are many Birth Plan suggestions online that you can find. When I was expecting my first child I had a Birth Plan as well. I prepared myself from A to Z. Well….life is a very funny thing.
Let me start from the beginning. My first pregnancy was classic and awesome. It was easy, I lost some weight at the beginning ( due to feeling sick and eating very small portions just because I HAD to eat ), I started gaining some expected weight after month 5. I looked awesome and felt sexier than before I became pregnant. No mood swings, calm and smiling I expected our miracle to arrive. Everybody around kept telling me that I look wonderful and really glowing. After reading the books about pregnancy and what to expect I realized that I have to make a Birth Plan NOW.
My Birth Plan was a simple one and I was confident about how it will be:
1.Yes to V Delivery and Yes to Epidural.
2.Yes to breastfeeding.
3.Yes to hubby helping me push and go home the next day.
So yes, everything was planned per..r..r..r..r..fectly.
My due date kept getting closer….I was expecting the dropping. It is one of the signs that labor is near and you may notice that your baby has moved down lower in your abdomen. It never happened. So I went overdue….. And as some of you may know, once you go overdue, you have to come for ultrasound every 3 days. Just to check that the baby is doing fine and there is enough amniotic fluid left for the baby. So I went 2 weeks overdue. But I felt fine. Still no dropping. My bump was as high as you can imagine.
So one day my husband took couple hours off work to drive me to my OBGyn for another routine 3 day ultrasound. I felt AWESOME that day. I made plans “whats’f for dinner” and told him that after hospital we have to quickly drop by the supermarket so I can buy chicken and few veggies, because I want to cook something special today. With that thought in mind we went for ultrasound. In there technicians didn’t see a lot of hands movement from our baby. The baby was moving her fingers but NOT her hands. So they sent us down to see our doctor. Me, still happy and thinking about the grilled chicken I will be making today went to see the doctor. As it happened my doctor had been called out for an emergency.
The nurse was reading the report and then looked at us with her big round eyes : ” You HAVE to go to the hospital NOW! Hurry” she said.
Still relaxed I asked why? She explained to us about the hands movement and that my amniotic fluid was getting low. Ok….” So why are we going to the hospital? I mean what are we going to do in there? And how long will it take?” I kept asking. ” You are going in there to give Birth!” answered our nurse.
When I heard ” giving birth” it started to click in my head, you know…. So I asked again: ” What do you mean by “give birth”? I don’t feel like giving birth now! I feel awesome! I’ve read how bad it gets when women are ready to give birth…no no no…I’m not anywhere near that feeling. And the chicken! You don’t understand! I’m going to grill that tasty juicy chicken tonight….. so no…no hospital” I continued to deny…. At that moment all the nurses around us were staring at us with their eyes wide open …. The main nurse hugged me and told me once again, that this was the time, that there was no chicken, and that I was already 2 weeks overdue and yes that I was ready to give birth any moment.
So we went to the hospital ( it was 5 minutes away from the doctors’ office). In there we had to wait few hours in a triage. When we finally got someone to checkup on me, they told us YES, the movements weren’t as often as they would liked it to be, but I was still fine…. and then they asked me what I wanted to do…go home and come back some other time or just do it now. And mind you by that time it was 4:30 PM already…. I mean I didn’t want to go home and then come back and do the same thing all over again. We already spend half of the day. And besides that there was no chicken for dinner already, so yeah…we decided to just do it now.
Since I told them I wanted a natural labor ( with epidural) I was given an IV. The nurse hooked up an electronic fetal monitor (EFM) to monitor the baby’s heart rate.At some point I got so scared that I started shaking. And I mean it. My whole body was shaking, and my teeth chattering. I just couldn’t help it. And besides that they kept coming and doing V exams all over and over again. And I was so tense that they literally could NOT get in and see anything. They told me it was around 2 cm, but since I was so tense and kept just screaming they couldn’t say for sure. I was given Pitocin Induction. Twice. Basically all of that continued for 24 hours. I was so tired after and couldn’t sleep on my back due to back pain,couldn’t turn on the side due to monitor. At that moment I started to feel the contractions. They weren’t strong but bothered me a lot. 3 doctors changed during my stay in there. I was begging the last one to just give me the epidural, and that after that they could just do as many V exams as they wanted. Finally they agreed. The funny part is that even after epidural I didn’t stop shaking. So they finally checked me and told me I am 1 cm……and that was after 24 hrs in the hospital and 2 inductions….
The weird part was that every time the baby tried to drop, the heart beat on the monitor jumped up twice or even higher. This was the time I started to hear doctor and nurses whispering behind the doors about c-section. They gave me the choice to decide whether I wanted to do a c-section immediately ( because there was something wrong with the baby and she could not even drop down) or just keep trying myself…but then there was a big chance it would be an emergency on the spot and they would cut me up anyways, just not nicely, because baby’s life would be the first priority at that time.
Should I tell you how it made me feel? Me? Who was already shaking and with chattering teeth for 24 hours? Me, who wasn’t even going to give birth that day and kept thinking about the grilled chicken for dinner the whole day? Yeah…. I started shaking even more. Plus I started to cry. My husband held my hand all this time, and I was scared to that point that I even started to tell him where all of our money savings were ( I do the budget 🙂 ), what were the passwords to get into there…..and I also asked him to find a great wife…not only a wife for himself but first and most importantly a great mother for our soon to be born baby….I asked him to cremate my body and scatter the ashes at the ocean….I will keep quiet about his reaction to these….. Hehehe
Well, long story short, our precious daughter was born. The reason behind the trouble was the umbilical cord. It was wrapped around her neck twice….choking her every time she tried to drop down. They couldn’t see it during ultrasound…or maybe it all happened during the time in the hospital…because when the mother is stressed and shaking ( and my stress level was VERY high) it really affects the baby.
At the end I was so happy that I decided to do it that day,not to wait till the next one, that I agreed to the c-section. That everything ended up on a good note. With everybody being happy and alive.
So what can I say about the Birth Plan? Hm…. To whom how, and as you see I had a perfect healthy pregnancy, no high risk. But I personally do not see any point in it. Yes, of course, we can have some ideas how we want it to go, but just don’t expect it to work 🙂 If birth plan worked for you -congratulations, you are very lucky! 🙂
The only suggestion I can give you is to make sure you are ready for anything. So be ready and prepared for any kind of delivery ( hoping and believing in the best!) and don’t beat yourself in a chest that this is the one and only way you will be giving birth. Because situation changes every second.
At the end it doesn’t matter how we give birth but what truly matters is that our precious bundles of joy are in our hands, healthy and loved by us.
Share your story. I will be very happy to read yours 🙂 This is an unforgettable experience for everyone 🙂